PRE-PARENT EDUCATION      WHY WE NEED IT

The United States has the highest per capita prison rate of any industrialized nation, three to four times that of England and France and about five times that of Canada. Every prison inmate is someone’s son, father, brother, mother or loved one.

Were  these 2.0  million of our citizens born bad?  Executives at Father Flanagan’s Boy’s Town write, “ For more than 70 years we have operated on the premise that there is no such thing as a bad boy or girl, only poor training.”

Thus we must conclude that in most cases, the babies that became these inmates did not have the kind of care, training and education that was needed to help them become law abiding citizens. A fraction of the cost of incarceration spent on training and helping parents could have prevented most of these incarcerations.

Parenting is the most important job we ever have. Parents are also a child’s first and often most important teachers.

  Terrel H, Bell,  former U. S. Commissioner of Education stated: “Nothing is more important for our society than to prepare teenage boys and girls to become effective parents.”

While some parents do a good job, those who don’t help to account for the many problems of children and youth. Among these are the following:

n      Three million reports of child abuse each year.

n      Far too many babies born with birth defects.

n      About one million teenagers become pregnant each year. n About one half of these have abortions..

n      More than half of the babies in our nation’s Capitol are born out of wedlock.

Dr. T. Berry Brazelton, child care TV personality, Dr. Burton L. White, long time early childhood researcher at Harvard, and Dr. Elliot T, Barker, President of the Canadian Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children, all have strongly endorsed the need for Pre-Parent Education in our nation’s schools.

William Raspberry in a column wrote: There is hardly a parent who has not said, “If I had only known what I know now.”. . .  So why aren’t  we doing more to teach the parents of preschoolers how to be more effective parents?

n      In two nationwide surveys, (110,000 letters total) each made to parts of 10 different lists, ninety percent of the questionnaires returned supported the need for Pre-Parent Education (PPE).

Numbers had added comments on our effort. Some of these follow :

n      I taught school for 29 years and I always said we do not have delinquent children, we have delinquent parents.  Mrs. Mary Miller, Canfield, OH.

n      You’re on the right track when you link parent education to the prevention of child abuse. L. Braun, Director, Families First, Boston, MA

n      Teaching how to avoid pregnancy should have top priority.  Rene Espinosa, McLean, VA.

n      I applaud your work. Dr Christina C. Slowick, Meadow Vista, CA..

n      Of course parents are not the only factor in determining how children develop.  But they are the main ones, they are the ones that society holds responsible.

n      David Hamburg, President of the Carnegie Corporation of New York, in his Report of the President for  their 1995 Annual Report, wrote: “Young people having children are less experienced in child care than were any of their predecessors. Many start a new family without the knowledge, skills or confidence to carry out the enduring responsibilities of competent parenthood.”

n      So what can be done to insure that newborn babies are wanted, and have parents who can help them grow and develop into caring and responsible citizens?  The only place where all prospective parents can be reached is in the nation’s schools. Here, with a little input in each grade from kindergarten on through high school, the attitudes and skills needed could be slowly instilled.

Along with these skills some fundamental VALUES should also be provided, if we are to have an orderly society. Some of these are respect and compassion for others, honesty and integrity, concern for our environment and for preserving the many of species of life that have evolved and survived to our time, concern for the wonders of nature and for preserving the land, air and water of our little planet for those who come after us, plus a love of and support of FREEDOM.

Schools could also well incorporate day care into school buildings, making it easier for students to get first hand experience and knowledge about young children.

So will you please join us and use your voice and influence to help insure better informed and trained parents. It is the best way to slow and stem the flood of children and youth who become problems to themselves and to society.

So as the saying says, “Don’t just stand there.Take action.  Talk to people, call your School Board, the PTA, the Superintendent of Schools, make your influence count. YOU are important. It’s your children,  community and  country. THANK YOU!                             


You can help us reach more people by sending your tax deductible contribution to:
Learn for Living, 209 Pine Street, Alexandria, VA  22305
 

SOME RESOURCES:

PARENTHOOD EDUCATION CURRICULUM
A comprehensive 550 page loose leaf manual for middle school and beyond developed by the state of Oregon by a team of specialists.

Contact */Oregon Dept of Education, Salem, OR 97310-0290
Telephone: (503)-378-8119.      

EDUCATING CHILDREN FOR PARENTING (ECP)
211 North 13 Street, Suite 701, Philadelphia, PA 19107  Phone ( 215)-496-9780
www.ecparenting.org